The song is running through my head and I only really know that one phrase from it. Truthfully, I didn't have a bad day, but it will not go down in history as one of my better ones. In the book that I've been reading about creating an electronic presence for myself, the author suggests that you shouldn't write a blog post on a day when you are angry. People don't like angry (even if the popularity of the Hulk suggests otherwise).
I have found that the author is probably correct. Usually, when I talk about something that is bothering me or something bad that happened to me, the person to whom I was complaining gives an example of something even worse that happened to them. It becomes a reciprocating cycle of one-downsmanship.
As hard as it is, I usually find that the only thing that gets me out of the funk of a bad day is being positive and counting my blessings. If I focus on how bad the situation is or on revenge (and I can be pretty creative when it comes to revenge), I just end up feeling worse. If I find the silver lining, it's as though a heavy stone has been lifted from my brow and I can think more clearly. This isn't about a false positivism; for this to work, I need to find something truly good in the situation or in my life and celebrate it (not ironically).
Now, demons will still try to bring those bad thoughts to mind. I find that the only way to consistently keep them back is to recognize who benefits from my misery: it isn't my kids or my friends, not my co-workers or my spouse, and it certainly isn't me. Thus the only true revenge is leaving that misery behind. I certainly don't want to support the devil that benefits from my misfortune.
Life is good and my blessings are many. My state of mind is my own to control.
I have found that the author is probably correct. Usually, when I talk about something that is bothering me or something bad that happened to me, the person to whom I was complaining gives an example of something even worse that happened to them. It becomes a reciprocating cycle of one-downsmanship.
As hard as it is, I usually find that the only thing that gets me out of the funk of a bad day is being positive and counting my blessings. If I focus on how bad the situation is or on revenge (and I can be pretty creative when it comes to revenge), I just end up feeling worse. If I find the silver lining, it's as though a heavy stone has been lifted from my brow and I can think more clearly. This isn't about a false positivism; for this to work, I need to find something truly good in the situation or in my life and celebrate it (not ironically).
Now, demons will still try to bring those bad thoughts to mind. I find that the only way to consistently keep them back is to recognize who benefits from my misery: it isn't my kids or my friends, not my co-workers or my spouse, and it certainly isn't me. Thus the only true revenge is leaving that misery behind. I certainly don't want to support the devil that benefits from my misfortune.
Life is good and my blessings are many. My state of mind is my own to control.
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