I find the concept of agency interesting when thinking about the idea of "falling in love." So many people refer to this phenomenon as though they had no choice in the matter, and it has always caused me some concern. If a person believes that they "fell" in love rather than chose love, aren't they suggesting that they would have made a different choice had they been given the option? Is "falling" in love a way to refuse responsibility for the situation to help stem other people's possible disapproval of the relationship?
The idea of agency being responsible for love actually excites me a great deal. It means that the people who love me have chosen to do so after weighing (at least, subconsciously) the benefits and costs of doing so. This means that (at least a few) people believe that I am deserving of love. Love, then, is more than a simple feeling, but a type of contract between the people involved: I have chosen you because, despite any faults you might have, I would prefer to be with you than without. There is something quite beautiful about that.